The Age Gap Chat

The discussion surrounding age gaps in relationships gained prominence after the sexual revolution and the rise of open(obvious) hypergamy in the 1970s. Before this period, women typically married between the ages of 20 and 23, while men generally tied the knot between 22 and 28. Fast forward 55 years to the dawn of the sexual revolution, and the average marriage age for women shifted to between 29 and 32, with men marrying at ages 27 to 31—noticeably older than before. More recently, the trend has continued; for instance, the median age of grooms rose from 36 in 2016 to 37 in 2020, while brides median age increased from 32 to 33 during the same timeframe.

Typically, the age difference between brides and grooms averages around four years in civil marriages, whereas traditional marriages see an average gap of about six years. The significance of the sexual revolution lies in its impact on women's sexual liberation; it encouraged many to delay marriage in favor of exploring their sexuality and maximizing their options before settling down with a more traditional partner, a RUG or a beta male. This era also marked women's entrance into the workforce, leading them to embody the qualities they sought in a partner.

In a capitalist society, a man typically reaches his sexual market value peak around the age of 35, with many realizing their full potential by 40. At this point, men are able to pursue a relationship with the woman of his dreams. In contrast, women enjoy the freedom to explore their options and address their reproductive needs effectively, while men, particularly RUGs, often find themselves expected to pursue relationships with women who have already experienced their peak sexual value—typically women in their 30s. This situation creates an imbalance, as men who have worked diligently to enhance their sexual market value—often reaching its apex in their 40s—are expected to marry women whose market value has declined due to past relationships with more attractive partners.

I have often told young men that their true prospects, as a guy in high school, is likely still in elementary(primary) school, specifically around third grade. It is common to observe a significant age difference in many marriages, often around ten years. For example, if your father is 50 and your mother is 40, that age gap illustrates how, when your dad was a senior in high school, your mom was still in grade three.

Currently, dating individuals your own age can be a valuable experience for understanding female nature and discovering more about yourself. However, it is essential to recognize that you’re not necessarily searching for a serious relationship, as your "soulmate" is still maturing. On the other hand, women your age might inadvertently influence you negatively, leading to habits that could age you prematurely.

You may find that by the time younger women enter the scene, you may not look your best. What often goes unnoticed is that the women in your peer group might be contributing to this aging effect, potentially making you appear a decade older than you actually are. By the time the "soulmate" is ready for a relationship, you might discover that you have transformed into a version of yourself that no longer attracts the right partners, all because of those unhealthy influences.

-Mohau Darlington