The Wall

Here's a thought-provoking perspective for women navigating the sexual marketplace. As women age, their romantic opportunities often diminish, and it’s essential to consider what that means for them. From ages 18 to 23, a woman typically enjoys an abundance of attractive suitors and a range of choices. This period, influenced by the sexual revolution, grants women significant freedom to explore their options. However, six years can pass quickly, and it can be challenging to make the most informed decisions in such a short span.

Moreover, women's bodies undergo notable changes during these years, influenced by various factors. While men remain physically unchanged in most respects, women's bodies can be affected by diet, contraceptives, alcohol consumption, pregnancy, and emotional experiences like heartbreak, all of which can alter brain chemistry and genetic expression. As a result, many women may not look the same at 25 as they did at 20 unless they consciously avoid these influences. In today’s world, where it can be nearly impossible to evade these factors, many women find themselves struggling with body image and fitness as they approach their mid-twenties.

Consequently, these women may feel pressured to pursue commitment from partners they are not genuinely excited about since the men they desire are often attracted to the younger, seemingly fresh 20-year-olds whose bodies haven't undergone similar transformations. This observation isn't meant to body-shame; it’s a reflection on how the choices they make can impact their appearance and the dynamics of attraction.

As women turn 25 and older, they may find themselves feeling less empowered in the dating scene, prompting them to reconsider their approach to relationships. With a dwindling pool of potential partners, they might push for a more serious commitment even with individuals they are not truly invested in. At this juncture, women face two primary choices: they can either pressure a man into marriage or take charge of their own security by becoming the man they want to marry.

# Key Points

1. Limited window of opportunity: Women have a relatively short period (18-23 years old) to explore their options and make decisions about their relationships.

2. Physical changes: Women's bodies undergo significant changes due to various factors (lifestyle, contraceptives, pregnancy, heartbreak), affecting their physical appearance.

3. Decreasing attractiveness: After the initial 6-year window, women may find it challenging to attract the men they desire, as those men often pursue younger, more physically attractive women.

4. Forced relationship formalization: Women may feel pressured to formalize relationships with men they don't genuinely desire, as their ability to attract other prospective partners diminishes.

5. Two options: Women are left with two choices: either force a man's compliance to marry them or take responsibility for their own security and well-being.

-Mohau Darlington